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My mother in law got cancer
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I am shocked and
feel very upset when I heard that my mother in law got breast cancer.
My mother in law ,
approaching to her 80 year-old. is a very kind and considerate mother. who ever
lived with us for more
than seven years as a baby-sitter to take care of my daughter , a cook for us
. a nanny to do housework.To use this
wording is not saying what she was doing is in a subservient role .but
to express my gratitution to her.as well as to
show how great It is for a mother's love.
She looks
like a well-educated person though She is indeed illiterate. I guess that is
sort of reflection of her strong heart .She is light of foot and
in good health.That is
impression she leaves .
I may mention
her to my colleague or friends but rarely think to write something about her .till the
day I got this news.
Nowadays Many
soap opera are filmed to record the subtle relationship between daughter in law
and mother in law. It is easy to find such kind of TV series on when you change the
channels . I have to say I love to watch them . I can not avoid laughing when I
am watching as They are all based on real life .
I am puzzled
why It is difficult to handle the relationship .Is it because that people of the
same sex repel?
Fortunately I
have not met those headaches. I am a very frank person and She is shrewd . From
this point of view ,probably we are complementary. In her eyes I
am just like a child, older than my daughter . She took on all housework when I
was busy . unlucky ,It seemed I was always busy.
Therefore I seldom did
that. She made green tea for me when I was doing
my working or watching TV . She prepared fruit and put into my handbag on the
early morning before I was ready to leave home.She did a lot a lot for
us.
She came to
shanghai two month before I was giving the birth. the year, She was at her
age of 67 . That was our second time to meet.We had one
month running period. Basically we watched each other and rarely talk as
we were not familiar each other. we needed time to be used to each
other.Also I can
not understand what she was saying due to we were from different places and she
can not speak mandarin. His son acted as agent to translate
.
The next month
we started to communicate , She tried to cook sth I like . but still there were
not too much talk. till 2 month later after I had my daughter our relationship
become much closer than ever before. we exchanged a
lot. She talked about her relatives and so did I . I regarded her as my mother
in my heart.
During the
years we stayed together We had quarrels but most of time we got along very
well. Many sweet memories are emerging in my mind when recalled . Remembering
once She by accident left the home without bringing key on hand . The door was
closed with my four months old daughter sleeping in the
bed.She was very
afraid that anything unexpected happen to my daughter. She even can
not wait for a person who could help her to open the
door.She did an
unbelievable thing.
Our apartment was
in 7th floor. She asked the neighbor to open their window and then she climbed
from their window to ours. My god.I was thrilled
even when she told us her experience at that night. Even for me I am not sure
if I dare to do that .What encouraged her to do so? what was in her mind when
she did that? you know , She could die if one step is on the air.
Nothing but love I know. What a great grandmother she is.
Now She had
got malignant tumor at her age of 78. Despite She was performed an operation and
under several times chemotherapy. We are not sure what awaits
her. My friend said
9 of 10 people who got cancer died of scary rather than disease itself. She seems optimistic when I called her. That is good
sign for recover . I hope she is strong
enough to fight against the disease and can create a
miracles.
Pray for her
and God Bless her!!!
Post comment Comment (19 replies)
- Reply Kevin_z
- Sorry to hear that. God bless your mother and your family. You are such a good daughter in law.
- Reply lijuanandrea
- you can spare more time to take care of her,she is really a great mother in law. you are lucky to be her daughter in law. don't be so worry, or you may put pressure on her, enjoy the time that you are stay together with her. send my regards and best wishes to her.
- Reply lucyqian
- wish your mother-in- law will come over the ill ,restored in time,I have a same mother-in-law with you ,seems we are luckily people ,and we love her more than my mother . pray for your mother-in -law.
- Reply sophia_2011
- lucyqian: wish your mother-in- law will come over the ill ,restored in time,I have a same mother-in-law with you ,seems we are luckily people ,and we love herGood luck for all good people.hehe
- Reply sophia_2011
- lijuanandrea: you can spare more time to take care of her,she is really a great mother in law. you are lucky to be her daughter in law. don't be so worry, or you maThank you . I hope she can come to shanghai soon.
- Reply sophia_2011
- yaping: I am sorry for that. bless ur mom...Thank you .:)- Wish all mom good luck
- Reply sophia_2011
- Kevin_z: Sorry to hear that. God bless your mother and your family. You are such a good daughter in law.hehe . Thank you . I am far from "good". but I appreciate what I have
- Reply JMZ
- a good mother in law and a good daughter in law. best wishes to her, hope your mom get well soon...
- Reply snowflying
- so sorry to hear the new about your mother -in -law,my friend. a say says :as a living person who eat five sorts of crops nobady have none of illness. but hear the unlucky message, i can understand your sad upset mood, though i know any comfort words make nothing to you at this moment. i can feel the deep relationship between you and her,just as daughter and mum. you are s good daughter-in -law too. just care her as your mum.
but i have heard and saw some old waman who got breast cancer too, this is the light among all of the cancers. if lucky, can live more than 10 years even further times.
good luck to her! my best blessing to her too.
- Reply sophia_2011
- snowflying: so sorry to hear the new about your mother -in -law,my friend. a say says :as a living person who eat five sorts of crops nobady have none of illness.I hope She can live another 10 years or longer than that.
She deserves that. Thank you .My friend.
- Reply sophia_2011
- JMZ: a good mother in law and a good daughter in law. best wishes to her, hope your mom get well soon...I hope so. I still remembered she hugged me when I left her home. hehe
- Reply cjfls2003
- Sorry to here that, hope you and your mother in law have good mood. You already try your best. And just let the god decide things else, just be peaceful, and let be. Everyone will meet these things!
- Reply constantine_hk
- God bless your mother and your family
- Reply shirleyytt2010
- I am sorry to hear that, Wish she will recover from her illness ASAP.
- Reply sophia_2011
- Thank you , She is getting recovering . God bless her!
