One of my friend from USA come to shanghai this week . We have not seen for more than 4 years .We seldom contact except sending greetings occasionally when we bump into MSN.

It was already 8 pm when I finally arrived at the meeting point. I immediately recognized him in the crowded people flow, friend is friend . You may rarely get in touch but They are there in their mind. Never fade away as time pass by.

We talked a lot over dinner. I find I returned to a talkative person while I am in front of my friends. He is not changed that much, as gentle, considerate , humorous as before . I have to admit I don't behave like a very considerate person:(. I easily focus on one thing and forget others. I enjoyed the feeling to be taken care. haha

 After dinner He led me to a very very nice bar which is located in the people square. Maybe It is more properly to say It is hiding there and hardly to be detected, especially under the dim light of night. That is a place surrounded by water on three sides.  Through a small lane covered by green and tall trees on both sides It directs you there.  

We picked up an outside table and sit down where we can have fresh air and meanwhile have a good view of  the scenery around.

It is a great feeling that once a while I have chance to have a dinner/ coffee with friends .Appointment with friends is good way to relax, exchange information and views on matters .You don't need to hide yourself . You can say whatever you want and even give him/her a sharp comment. A good friend help us to have a better self-reflection .

He first time talked about his first lover .Interesting! The story started when he was a junior in University. The girl went abroad for further education after they fall in love for 3 months. The connection between them was very limited at that time due to without internet available and also long distance call was not accessible everywhere and cheap.

In order to listen to her voice . He took buses to a place where was 20 kilometers away from Uni. He saved the compensation from blood donation to afford it.

Unfortunately The girl very soon married a man who held green card in USA. one month before married She posted him a tape and said split in the record. It gave a hard hit. He could not forget her and He planned to be there .Three years later He married and also He got the admission to a uni which is nearby the place of her residence. He moved to USA together with his wife.

They got chances to meet occasionally in the name of business trip, classmates gathering .friend's wedding party etc. He seemed possessed by the devil .He enjoyed doing that while suffering from the emotion  though He no more told her How much He loved her and He just wanted to see her and talked to her. He seized any chance closing to her and sensed her existence.

The emotion to her lasted another 7 years since He came to USA. It suddenly stopped till the day He got to know the girl divorced and was dating with a man. He asked her why she did not give them a chance to be with. The girl replied that she did not realize the emotion he had to her ,of course The fact that he is in the relationship is another reason. his heart knot was finally open.  He organized his thought and realized that his one side involvement is not worthwhile meanwhile He felt regret to his wife in spite that his wife does not know from the beginning to the end.

I guess My friend must had a very very long suffering which he can not share with others and can not put it on table.10 years emotion. how many 10 years we could have in our life?

 I don’t know what I should comment after listening to his story

Is this story that we should applause for his true love as  Love a person for such a long period is not easy ?

Is that forgivable that His soul has derailed from his marriage although she was not aware of that ?

He has confused with the feeling of love and hurt for 10 years. .I hope , He has already  had a clear cognition to the motion . In return His soul returned to his home and make up what he owned in his marriage as a husband.