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Have You Ever Fathomed Him/Her?
I have recently strongly sensed that, I have been living a life with a man who I actually do not understand, even though I am so familiar with his appearance.
One of my best friends ever suggested on a man's side that a woman should choose a man who can appreciate or know her to be her life partener. I thought I did, but things changed, that appreciation would last forever.
Once a woman becomes a mother, she can never ever live a life like before, especially if she has to take care of the kid all by herself. But the man will still hope that she was the sweet girl when he met first. How ridiculous!
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- Reply girlisabel
- what happened? no matter how unhappy u are, just be kind to yourself as woman!
- Reply PuyaRaimondii
- girlisabel: what happened? no matter how unhappy u are, just be kind to yourself as woman!Thank you. I just feel upset and disappointed. Fortunately, I have learned to be kind to myself.
- Reply Buqiqi
- I would like recommand a book to you——Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus——since it has helped many millions of couples transform their ralitionship.
Hope it can help you.
- Reply sunnyv
- Men are just like pets. Just be nice to him, give him the things he want and he would most likely give you everything in return. Should you choose to use confrontations and demands, there would be resistance, the relationship would start shaking and eventually crash to ground in pieces. Which way you wish to choose is up to you.
However, there are situations where you can never do what he wants or perhaps you don't to do that. In this case, the relationed is destined to fail. The price is too high to pay especially when you have a child.
Everything in life is give and take. Make a sensible decision.
- Reply violett
- I recommand a book to you--Relationship bridge to the soul.I can help you to get more understand couple's relationship and some essential things.Wish you all the best.
- Reply PuyaRaimondii
- violett: I recommand a book to you--Relationship bridge to the soul.I can help you to get more understand couple's relationship and some essential things.WishThank you for your recommendation. I am tired of living a life cautiously. I just want to be myself, and let the destined just show up.
- Reply PuyaRaimondii
- Buqiqi: I would like recommand a book to you——Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus——since it has helped many millions of couples transform their ralitiThank you so much.
- Reply violett
- PuyaRaimondii: Thank you for your recommendation. I am tired of living a life cautiously. I just want to be myself, and let the destined just show up.The destiny is created by ourselves,You just need to choose the direction.
- Reply PuyaRaimondii
- Buqiqi: I would like recommand a book to you——Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus——since it has helped many millions of couples transform their ralitiThank you, I will try after I get my driving licence.
- Reply PuyaRaimondii
- sunnyv: Men are just like pets. Just be nice to him, give him the things he want and he would most likely give you everything in return. Should you choose toMy husband and I have come to the agreement that we should maintain this relationship only for the kid. I do not know whether I become more tolerant or I just care less, we did not quarrel a lot.
Some also say that, a wife shall treat her husband as another child of hers, but I would like to be another daughter of my husband.
Life is just life, and dream is another thing. Move on!
- Reply yaping
- Time can make a little girl to a mature woman,then man still want to have a young, lovely and shy girl forever! they always can't understand the process of women's maturing experience.
- Reply PuyaRaimondii
- yaping: Time can make a little girl to a mature woman,then man still want to have a young, lovely and shy girl forever! they always can't understand the procI just can not agree more.
I just believe that it is partial.- Reply sunnyv
- yaping: Time can make a little girl to a mature woman,then man still want to have a young, lovely and shy girl forever! they always can't understand the procGood analysis. That is what it is.
- Reply Davidsun
- To make up a family and grow older and older with someone is just like a marathon, tedious; while enjoying the romance in love is just a 100-meter dash, exciting but not lasting. However, since everything is already there, mutual compromise is indispensable. When it comes to rice and milk, life is totally another thing. Fighting, be it emotional or verbal, does do any help.
- Reply Richardren
- To be frank with you, my marriage had experienced a similar crisis like yours, then I realized how ridiculous I was having such a high expectation from my wife after we had the baby and mostly she raised the kid alone. I blame myself for my whimsical thinking and forgetting totally to appreciate what I used to appreciate her. My parent’s marriage was filled with intense quarrel and no love between them at all, a real tragedy not uncommon among families in China, I shall not repeat the tragedy and want to be the transformational one to be a husband of love and care, to build a happy family of our own. What I want to say here is if each part of the family is willing to shift the focus on how to appreciate the other, and taking real action always to love, happy families would surely be abundant in the society.
- Reply rich
- it is said that a marriage is like a pair of shoes. only you yourself know whether it fits you or not. i think it makes sense. however, being a wife/husband means you realize that you have to accept all he/she is, bad and good. you have to make some compromises, trying to understand him/her, putting yourself in his/her position. if no one is willing to give in, then the relationship is doomed to fail. the best of luck!
- Reply PuyaRaimondii
- Davidsun: To make up a family and grow older and older with someone is just like a marathon, tedious; while enjoying the romance in love is just a 100-meter dasThat is a great metaphor, I will make my inner side strong enough, so that I can stick to the finishing line.
- Reply PuyaRaimondii
- Richardren: To be frank with you, my marriage had experienced a similar crisis like yours, then I realized how ridiculous I was having such a high expectation froIt is so lucky for you couple as you realize the situation before it gets worse. I did not. Finally, we survive the crisis. Be kind to your wife, as she gets week both physically and spiritually after she becomes a mother.
