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Yesterday, I heard the shocking news: a 14-year old girl was kidnapped by others; I got it from her elder brother. He has been anxious, and wrote many details about his sister for seeking any possible chance to find her. When I heard about it, I conveyed the news to some of my friends in hoping to help him, and tonight I just planed to put it up here with the same intention.
While, actually, just up to now, when I am writing and want to get a photo about her, everything has changed: she was neither lost nor kidnapped, just run away from home with her so-called friends.
That’s really shocked me, not only about the former news but also what the little girl told to her brother----“I am fine, don’t worry about me. I’ll come back home when I am understood. Don’t come to find me or you’ll make me run away again…..”
I can’t help asking what happened, to the world, to the younger generation.
It seems the generation born in or after 1990s has a sharp transformation in mind and we even didn’t realize it, they have a totally different thinking pattern; they hold their own judgment strongly; they show little care to others surrounding and even sometimes you cannot judge their age or gender just through their dressing. Is that why we find they are hard to understand or communicate?
I also can’t help asking the girl here: have you ever imagined how are your parents now? Can you imagine they are extremely helpless and desperate when they can’t find you?
Why not come back home? Just coming back and talking with your parrents sincerely, everything will be OK. That's easy. While running away is the last choice, it can't solve any problem!
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- Reply crazyman168168
- I can not agree with you somehow.
Firstly, we do not know the reason why she went out, Maybe the famliy put too much pressure on her, about study, time or privacy,or maybe she was wrong entirely, just want to escape. If the relationship of the famlies was nervous, the girl want to change and keep some distance, maybe that is a good idea.
Secondly, the way of chinese famliy education you know is not always right, maybe the love of the famliy give the girl too much limit, and she can not be herself sometimes, you think that is right? Different people have different hobbies and idea. Maybe it is a chance for her famliy to think about thier method or way to communicate with the ‘special’ girl.
- Reply silvia2011
- crazyman168168: I can not agree with you somehow.Your analysis may be reasonable, but I still can’t agree with the way she adopted. What if something bad happen to her (GOD bless it wouldn’t) during her escaping life, who should be responsible for it? You know, as so young a girl, she is too weak to protect herself and even doesn’t aware of self-protection. Maybe there is something wrong existing in her family, but just running away cannot solve any problem.
Firstly, we do not know the reason why she went out, Maybe the famliy put too much pressure on her, about study,
- Reply crazyman168168
- silvia2011: Your analysis may be reasonable, but I still can’t agree with the way she adopted. What if something bad happen to her (GOD bless it wouldn’t) durinYes, it is not useful to escape for problem solved, but you know change can bring change. The impulse action would let her famliy to think about their communication way.Maybe it is the begining for their peaceful life.
Things could bring something good or bad, it is the postive way to look at the 'crazy activity'.
- Reply silvia2011
- crazyman168168: Yes, it is not useful to escape for problem solved, but you know change can bring change. The impulse action would let her famliy to think about theiYeah, you are right. Every coin has two sides. We should hold a positive view to the whole thing. But the truth is that up to now, the girl is still outside and her parents are suffering huge sorrow. How to lead them to think it as the onlookers do? Should we blame them for their inappropriate way of love?
- Reply silvia2011
- Kevin_z: When were you born? 1989?
- Reply crazyman168168
- silvia2011: Yeah, you are right. Every coin has two sides. We should hold a positive view to the whole thing. But the truth is that up to now, the girl is still oYou know what i think, the best and fastest way to let the girl go back to her famliy is that her parents could face the problem sincerely, or they could think about things by standing the girl's point. Maybe the girl wants to avoid something or she fears something, but her parents will be able to give her some advice. The first question is what the problem is, then they should try to obtain the reason,you know this activity is very important at this time. If you think that is right ,maybe you can tell her brother.
- Reply silvia2011
- crazyman168168: You know what i think, the best and fastest way to let the girl go back to her famliy is that her parents could face the problem sincerely, or they coBut how to contact her and talk to her sincerely? She didn't call anybody. Just leaving message through qq space and disappeared again. Maybe she didn't calm herself down and couldn't take any advice at the moment, hope she can figure it out soon.
- Reply crazyman168168
- silvia2011: But how to contact her and talk to her sincerely? She didn't call anybody. Just leaving message through qq space and disappeared again. Maybe she didnKeep calm, her famliy and you. If you find it is difficult to contact with her, you can do something through her friend, take out your warm heart, maybe you could move her friend, then you could get some her information.
- Reply silvia2011
- crazyman168168: Keep calm, her famliy and you. If you find it is difficult to contact with her, you can do something through her friend, take out your warm heart, mayThank you very much, actually we've talked much about it.
- Reply crazyman168168
- silvia2011:As you know, we just want to help them, and just want to talk about commuication, famliy and education. It is not our own thing today, maybe it would be a problem for us someday.Thank you very much, actually we've talked much about it.
Wish them good luck.
