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I have a job with high pay, my own house and living comfortably. My parents always tell me to find a boyfriend, get married and have children. I don't want to get married because I have an independent character want continue the freedom I have. I do not trust men because my previous boyfriends only want intimacy before marriage. I know they cannot be trusted and I will be sorry later if I agree. Do you think it is acceptable to go to bed with your lover before marriage? I don't. Some of my friends are married and have children. I am getting older year by year, so it I got myself a boyfriend and hope to get married later but this is not the one I dream of. My boyfriend is a professional engineer from a traditional Chinese family. Many girls want are introduced to him and want to marry him because his family is rich. His parents want me to get married and have children. My boyfriend is always away working in different cities but we meet during holidays and weekends. He is a boring person does not like to talk, no interest in anything. I am more happy alone than with him. I know I will not be happy if I am married to him. What should I do?
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- Reply lovingfun
- You haven't got your Mr. right at present, when you got it , I guess that you may get married. Only those who meet in right place and right time that they may have a possibilities fall in love, but only when they fully trust each other, and would like share the rest life that they maybe establish a family.
As for whether have some intimacy before marriage, different people will have differ ideas. Anyway, there is only one thing for sure, no matter what decision or behavour we make, we should be responsible for them.
Wish you can meet your Mr. right quickly, then you maybe feel better.
- Reply KevinG
- Do you have a good relationship with your boyfriend？Do you have the feeling for him？can he give happiness to you？If you want to live a simple and ordinary life ，getting married with him seems to be good for you. As it stands now，Your present boyfriend can't meet your mate selection conditions but economy. Under the economic and emotional measure，You'd better think over what you want.
- Reply Ausfrank
- A love quote says: A woman can't change a man because she loves him, a man changes himself because he loves her!
Let your boyfriend change for you then.
- Reply sunnyv
- When you think about marriage, you think about the rest of your life. You would be spending the rest of your life with this person. There must be real love otherwise it will be impossible to be with him forever. Marriage also involves a lot of practical things like compatible mutual interests, respect, having children, sharing good, bad times and hand in hand walk this long road of union. However, time waits for nobody, and your own qualifications would also diminish as time goes by, so you would have to make the right decision at the right time. In your situation, perhaps you can wait a while then decide whether you want to commit yourself to this relationship.
As for the personality of your boyfriend, the opposite of boring is playful. I think you don't want a playboy right? As for intimacy, that is part of any romantic relationship. There would be no intimacy if there is no interest in you. You don't need to be too conservative in this, but how far to go depends on your situation. Just think it over, see what other prospective choices you have and what kind of future you want. In every decision there are some positive and negatives, so just make your best choice. Good luck to you.
- Reply possible
- Probably right now you think could be so independent that you do not need one at all.You do not wanna a baby,you wanna enjoy your life by your way all the time.
But you know,Our attitude towards to the life is changing all the time.One time you may feel lonely,you wanna a shoulder,you wanna someone you regard as a sweetheart.It maybe too late.
So be clear with what you wanna is so important and necessary,Everybody should do something for the future.
