There are two things in the world on which you will never put reluctance, one is studying interest while in childhood, the other is love while growing up. ---This, is a mirror, give up bravely, face it bravely, start again bravely.

  When he doesn’t love you anymore, no matter whether he loved you and forgot it later, or never loved you, anyhow, when you can’t become the person of his heart, he won’t remember you in his heart, let alone care about you. Even though he know you love him, once in a while he can feel your care, but he would rather pretend that he doesn’t know it. The person who doesn’t love is the first one to let it go forever, so, please don’t torture yourself and be painful for a long time. Should learn to be natural, if you choose to accept it sturdily, your break-up will be regarded as lack of lot, maybe in his heart, a little pity will remain; But if you’re not reasonable enough, always want to do something to save your love which can’t be existed possibly, then your break-up will only be regarded by him as difference in character.

  When he doesn’t love you, please don’t disturb him when you’re upset or stray while in trouble. He isn’t the place you should go to at the time absolutely. Maybe he’ll console you lightly and wish you happy heartily while receiving your call, but no more. When he doesn’t love you, your love, yourself, will become cheaper greatly. You’re in a disadvantageous position, which is the human nature. Maybe you want a little more, hence saying: “Let’s meet, how about having a dinner together?” If you think of having a dinner and meeting will save your lost love, then you’ll be so wrong, so stupid. And he’ll be worried in his heart. He’ll say: “I have some business, wait when there is a chance. You give me a call later, or I’ll call you probably.” Now you mustn’t treat this seriously, he is just using an excuse not so crack to prevaricate. Please, don’t wait seriously, don’t cheat yourself, not even necessary to be sad. His busyness won’t end for the sake of your wait. Many things in life are very important to him, and the most unmeaning thing to him is the lost love.

  When he doesn’t love you, please don’t talk with him about your trifle, don’t seek words to say, these are the stupidest and the most unmeaning. Maybe at the time, virtuous and spoony you just wish each other to be more familiar instead of being strange to each other suddenly. Actually you just can’t pass yourself temporarily, he has no time and no interest to know about you, your life, your past, what’s your strong points and shortcomings got to do with him? Even you tell him, he’ll forget it soon, just like he forgot his words to you. No love, which is destined that you’re not able to crush into his life. Even though, you want only a small corner. In his eyes, all your virtue has already become a burden instead of reason to attract him.

  When he doesn’t love you, don’t send him messages, asking him “How are you”, If he’s under great work pressure, your message will only bring him fidget instead of getting rid of his pressure, but if he lives really well, so you can only know it in your heart and learnt to care him silently and congratulate him!

  When he doesn’t love, don’t recall your passionate hug and soulful kiss, which will only let you can’t extricate yourself, past is past, don’t even be stupid enough to go to his home to ask him to kiss your once more, hug your once more. Because the hug and the kiss won’t have charm enough to make him love your once again, even he kisses you and hugs you for the sake of not being able to refuse you, you are still destined to depart, why do you have to make him who no longer love you in a quandary and yourself reluctant to leave him? What’s more, once in a while, his shadow probably will emerge in your dream, don’t give him a call or e-mail to tell him, you’ll be regarded as immature. Even he emerges in your dream, it’s normal, try to give yourself a little time to forget slowly, don’t be too rigorous on yourself!

When he doesn’t love you, please don’t be sad facing him, let alone weep, because tears can’t exchange for love indeed, which will make him look down upon your more. Don’t tell him you feel bad when you’re ill, learn to take good care of yourself. He doesn’t have energy enough to take care of you, even only show a little sympathy. Please, proud you, don’t give up your proud belongs to you originally. So many people, lose themselves so much while facing love, even don’t have courage enough to stand up again, where does the proud come from? Just, should remember forever, only the person who is willing and possible to offer his real love, can probably dote on and care about you, instead of onlooking sympathy and mercy. Don’t talk to him “As long as you’re happy I’m happy”, the words will show affection while he loving you, once break up, words like this, even though you say it with true heart, will make him feel your pressure on him, what’s the need to force a person once loved by you? Happiness is grasped by yourself, don’t entrust it on other people, understand?

  When he doesn’t love you, your love is his burden. Don’t need to calculate your pain, don’t expect to have gain, let alone show your reluctance to leave him intentionally or accidentally, because all things have already become past. Love the one who doesn’t love you, which is originally not requitable, can’t care right or wrong, then you’ll be happier. Should remember, love between you and him, is unilateral, you use heart, he has not heart. But, don’t blame her, because probably once he loved you and wanted to do better, not played it cool on you, he didn’t want the result like this either. Just, love a person, care a person, is originally an ability. Sorry, maybe he has this kind of ability, but your love is originally wrong without any result, his ability can’t be wasted on you indeed, try to forgive him. Of course, don’t be pessimistic to think that his love at one time is false, his promise at once time is false, life is originally not easy, let alone select love or not? Understanding should be more originally between person and person, let alone him once loved by you?

  When he doesn’t love you, don’t think that what the hell is going wrong between you, using what to save your love, because your distance is aloof like when he stands facing you and doesn’t know you love him. You stand facing him and don’t have the courage to tell him you love him. Does it necessary to save love like this? Please don’t lose your confidence for the sake of his saying indifferent character, maybe your character is misfit for him indeed, but that won’t prove you’re not a good girl, after all, there’ll be a person who likes your character born for you, lives for you, and struggles for your all his life. Love a person, not for the sake of her excellence, but only a feeling. You make him have this kind of feeling, so he loves you. In the same way, he doesn’t love, isn’t for the sake of your non-excellence. Excellence or not, is really not the reason of love or not, look around, there’re still so many people loving you, smile faintly, and find your confidence back, we have so many things to do with confidence, love isn’t the unique thing, not all of life.

  When he doesn’t love you, you should think whether you own him something or not when you calm down, especially materially, give back if you can, so that you can make your heart comfortable, the thing you can keep is your memory of love, but, don’t let him know. If he is a generous man, he won’t take gifts he once gave to you back, if you’re a girl who stands to sense, select a practical gift with patience and heart to present him in return, of course, isn’t an exchange, only put an perfect end to the love, you owe nothing to him anymore.

  When he doesn’t love you, you’ll often go to the places you used to be together casually, seeing every person around you as his shadow, every lovers will probably make you sentimentally attached to the past; You’ll often think about the songs he sang for you, then, you will have the feeling to cry, please learn to be stubborn, OK? When you’re alone, please don’t use alcohol and cigarette to anaesthetize you, because that’s not a way for a good girl to tyr to forget, if he knows, he’ll feel lucky he doesn’t love a girl like you anymore instead of feeling distressed. You can listen to the songs you used to sing together, can let your tears go freely, but don’t be stupid enough to configure it as your ring of mobile phone, because he will probably not give you a call anymore, what’s the need to show your truest and weakest side to other unrelated people, people have to learn to be stubborn. While listening to songs, don’t listen to <Why you’re not with me, darling>, <I love you so much>, <Love is so heavy>, <he doesn’t love me>, unless you’re sure you’ll not cry after you listen to these songs. Select some light-hearted songs to listen to, such as <Mouse likes rice>, <Two butterflies>, <Aurora>, <Your smile>, though they fall short of your mood while listening, but at least they can make your happy, if possible, follow the melody to sing together. Take all your gloomy in heart out, tomorrow will be a brand-new day again.

  Please don’t think of “Forever” for the sake of happiness and good memory you once had together, remember: no eternal love. You love deeply now, which is destined that you can’t and won’t love him some day in future, he is just in the day earlier than you. When he doesn’t love you, please hug the warmness of memory gently, fix wizen tenderness softly. Though he persuaded you the recall of past was meaningless and should look forward to future, but you can own the right and freedom of recalling or not, maybe along with the elapse of time, you’ll find, he isn’t as perfect as you thought in your heart, he is a normal guy too. So then, you’ll select to forget all memory naturally, means you’re growing up, really mature, should believe yourself!! Then, probably you’ll feel lucky the love destined to be no result is in abortion, felicitate your wish of birthing him a baby isn’t realized, because when he doesn’t love you anymore, child won’t be possible to detain his heart, after all, life in future is more important, people mustn’t use their happiness of life as wager.

  When he doesn’t love you, dear, please take a deep breath, the road of life is covered with love buds, after all there’ll be one belongs to you, not consoling you. Just because many things are destined earlier, just like the Buddha said, in previous existence, you turned around and saw each other for five hundred times to earn a short acquaintance, but your lot is not enough, so you can only be given love for one hundred days. Don’t be self-deceiving to imagine you’ll be together next life, because every one knows only this life is substantial, so we need to live well, cherish everything around us without any regrets, even Fan Zhongyan knew “Not pleased by external gains, not saddened by personal losses”, not even to say us? If you know him once loved by you are happy, then all will be enough, what’s the big deal about him not loving you anymore, for him, you need to be happy.

  When he doesn’t love you, don’t talk ill about him facing other people, especially to your mutual friends, because he deserves the right to love other people, needs his social circle, be a little open-minded, after all he is the one loved by you. When he doesn’t love you, you still need to bless him, and should do it with true heart, not care about gain and loss. Should be generous as before when you can help him., don’t be mean. With love, hate won’t be existed. Love is beautiful, hate is cruel. Why do you need to change the most beautiful thing of your life into hurt? Should not feel unjust. About break-up and oblivion, you already have unfairness between you, he gave up and lost a girl loved him so much, but you only lost a one who didn’t love you anymore, but regained a change for new life. Comparing these, won’t you be the happier one?

  When he didn’t love you anymore, I wrote this article, and also thought deeply, some things, could feel and express, but not easy to do, just liked the time I was writing, I told myself to be stubborn again and again, but I could not help to cry. But, believe time can fade everything, bless all friends who loved and gave: Be happy forever! Love without regret!! Regret is a kind of denial to the true love once your gave.