girls,you wanna stay with the one who loves you or the one you love ?

It;s a commom questions ,different people hold different ideas ,but  I still believe It's hard to answer Coz I really don't know how to reply .the reality is cruel but it is real,what is love ?

love is a mutural understanding ,trust and support...today my friend talked with me about her marriage life ,actually ,she married several years ,and had a cute daughter ,but unfortunately her marriage is not happy,her husband is not the  boy she love ,just forced by her parents ,so he became their son -in -low ,after marriage they often quarrel with each other about trifles.even sometimes some flighted will be happend between them ,how long will their marriage last for ?

It;s a tragedy endding  ,she told me if you wanna marry ,you must select the one you love .if there is no foundation of love .you will suffering form marriage,only do this,you can be happy in the future ,after all,life is for all .if you miss ,it can never be back .maybe her speaking is reasonable .but another question should be asked it ?if you marry the one you love ,but he or she don't love you ？how can you handle this question in that condition~?

if you marry the one who loves you ,but you don;t love him ,from apperance you hate him ,you don't want to see him .don;t want to talk to him and know more about him ,then how will love be happen ?

maybe most people will select the latter ,this is a controversial topic in our life ~