I have started to write in a relatively serious way since only about two months ago when I encountered Dioenglish, most of writing prior to this were just emails and translation works which are quite substantial in quantity. But I love reading, has been exposing myself to many great writers, sometimes I just can’t wait to put the stir of my mind in writing, but i can’t finish them and have been lost in the course of writing for many times, don’t mention to upload these fragmentary work to this popular website. Then I encountered an article about perfectionism which shed a bright light on me for knowing better of myself. The astonishing fact found out through this article was that I have been a perfectionist for quite a long time which is so bad to the development of myself and a real obstacle to enjoy the journey of life.
Perfectionism, according to the writer, defined as an incapacitating fear of failure that is permeating our life, especially on those areas that we care about the most. I would like to elaborate further from my understanding of perfectionism.
A deep rooted fear of failure, because of the embarrassment and the frustration and the deviation from the ideal conceptions of ourselves, is due to perfectionism. While failure could be so valuable to our growth, when we were young back to toddler’s year, we try everything new and learn every new skill without the fear of failure, we learn so fast though not without thousands of times of failure. But during the course of growing up, perfectionism set in, due to the inappropriate praises we received, due to the perfect idealism from the media, every person is so handsome and so noble in the movie, pictures of model on the cover of magazines are so perfectly beautiful, man with immaculate image shining in every of the TV series, we started to cultivate a perfect image of ourselves accordingly, and dare not to try new things, because nothing or a perfect one. We procrastinate to take initiative to gain something important to our life because of perfectionism, we afraid to accept reality because it is not perfect, we reject our love because of some flaws, we hurt our self esteem and the relationship with others because of a perfect expectation, we virtually refuse everything because nothing is perfect. Rat racers are typical examples of perfectionism, they always thinking that life would be perfect after getting to a certain point of life, they maybe quite successful socially and economically, but not happy fundamentally, because pressure always mounts after they reached a certain goal of life, they may be happy at certain point of life but not happy throughout the journey, the process of life that covers most of their life.
Though perfectionism is rampant in society of nowadays, there are many others who have committed themselves to excellence. Accepting the fact that from point A to point B is not always a straight line, but a line of up and downs and a line of upward spiral, they stop in no time to take action with no fear of failure, and enjoy the journey to their heart content both from failure and success, they take time to have a wonderful meal with friends, expose themselves through reading to many great writers, enjoy the time with their family, a sustainable and happy growth is thus ensured.
Back to my writing, I am desperate to write a perfect work, longing for big applauses from all the readers, blogs on top five lists all the time, always mind boggling and always big shot, surrounded by flowers and flashes from every corner of the world. How perfect that would be? Reality, however, is that these are just my wildest imaginations, should not even be regarded as expectations, I ought to try as much as possible to get rid of the perfectionism which has been haunting me since very long time ago, learn to fail and fail to learn, try to commit myself to excellence and enjoy the journey, write as much as I can before writing something more beautiful and more meaningful. Just think like Winston Chruchill once said: all the writings are just drafts for a lifetime great work.
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