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Divorce is looming, almost unavoidable
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Again, we had a quarrel today morning, I tried so hard to express my idea and hope to arouse some sympathy from your side that at least we could try to improve the situation. The only response was that nothing could be done, either accept the reality or divorce.
What is the reality? The reality is that you love me no more, respect me no more, and expect me to accept whoever you are, the person who you are sounds so unreal to me like a stranger who is playing with her Iphone all day long, thinking of nothing but how to have fun with friends, taking for granted that most of the house chore should be done by the diligent husband, baby should be properly taken care of in the meantime, besides the due responsibility of making money to support the whole family, which by the way, that my annual income was such a disgrace to you that you could not even hold your face up in front of your friends, God above, I made a cash amount of about RMB350,000.00 last year, which is not so handsome compare to rich tycoon, but more than enough to support the family.
I don’t want a divorce, nothing of the kind is ever possible in my mind, I love you, I love our cutie who is the most lovable in the world, and I love our family. But how could I accept the reality where there is no love, where there is no mutual respect, but coldness and contempt in the family. Divorce is looming bigger and bigger against my strength of holding it back, it is gaining momentum at an accelerated rate that I could not hold it longer, God, how may I hope that you could alleviate the agony of my heart and point me a way out.
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- Reply danyduan
- Sorry to hear that my friend.Maybe you should have a face-to face communication with your partner sincerely.I think divorce is not the only way to give you a outlet.
- Reply Soar
- Dear friend, maybe you could write to your wife and tell her how you love her, your daughter, your family. You should try your best to spend your time accompanying your kind wife and lovely daughter. I remember you have ever said "love should be a noun but not a verb. " Find out the real problem between you and your wife.
- Reply Jamesonhao
- So sad after reading, it must be hard...
- Reply loly90
- Horrible to hear about that! I don't want to see your divorce. Hope everything will be ok, God bless you!
- Reply Richardren
- danyduan: Sorry to hear that my friend.Maybe you should have a face-to face communication with your partner sincerely.I think divorce is not the only way to givdivorce should not be the only way, i have quite calmed myself now, things happened for a reason, i must consider and look into it deeper. thanks a lot for your kind opinion.
- Reply Richardren
- Soar: Dear friend, maybe you could write to your wife and tell her how you love her, your daughter, your family. You should try your best to spend your timemy friend, you remind me the golden means of keeping the relations, love should be a verb rather than a noun, sometime, i guess my ego had been too big to take the initative. divorce is too painful to both side, especially to our daughter, there must be someway out, i need to think and take the action.
- Reply Richardren
- moli: Anything you could do to save your marriage?there should be something that i can do to save the marriage, i must put aside my ego and take the initiative.
- Reply Richardren
- Jamesonhao: So sad after reading, it must be hard...it is too sad and too painful to make it worse, can't image a life without my wife and our lovely daughter. it must need some efforts to recover the relationship, i will try and see. thanks for you concern anyway.
- Reply Richardren
- loly90: Horrible to hear about that! I don't want to see your divorce. Hope everything will be ok, God bless you!thank you so much, loly, i will try to do something to revese the trend to disintegration of the family. may god bless you too.
- Reply moli
- Richardren: there should be something that i can do to save the marriage, i must put aside my ego and take the initiative.Best wishes for you!
- Reply Kimi011812
- Have a seat and communicate! I think, it maybe the quarrel owing to long-time's no communication, it's not easy for a man to support his familly now and also for a lady, most stuffs should be sharing no matter on economical, life or career.Wish u both settle down the problem now
- Reply Elinor
- I am sorry to hear that, best wishes for you! you will find one way out of this situation.
- Reply Richardren
- moli: Best wishes for you!thank you so much! Moli, you are a kind lady.
- Reply Richardren
- Kimi011812: Have a seat and communicate! I think, it maybe the quarrel owing to long-time's no communication, it's not easy for a man to support his familly now awe did have communication problem, which have created so many problems, which then lead to more serious ones. the word "divorce" aroused such a pain in my heart that i believe my love to my wife and the family is more than i expected. there must be a way out other than the divorce. thanks a lot for your fairly decent comment.
- Reply Richardren
- Elinor: I am sorry to hear that, best wishes for you! you will find one way out of this situation.thank you so much for your kind wishes, i shall pass the crisis for sure. and hope my misery would not affect your mood too much.
- Reply Kimi011812
- Richardren: we did have communication problem, which have created so many problems, which then lead to more serious ones. the word "divorce" aroused sucright! I think there must be a right way out. Wish everything gonna be better with u
- Reply XueHaiWuYa
- So sorry that you have been going through a tough time. Sincerely hope everything will be fine soon.
- Reply Richardren
- XueHaiWuYa: So sorry that you have been going through a tough time. Sincerely hope everything will be fine soon.we all have bad times, i think. it was the way in handling those misfortunes that would make the difference to the life. only genuine love, which i am so confident of having it, can solve the problem. i am sure that i will walk out of the crisis. thank you so much for your kind wishes.
- Reply hurrymm
- Friend, I am so sorry to see the misfortune happenning in your family. Recently what my dearest girl friend is experiencing resembles so much yours. Though it is a lie to tell that I could sense your pains and desperation, I still try to understand those miseries. Now you are standing at a life cross, the decision you make will change your life completely. I bet you both know that clearly. To manage a marriage well is no easier than to manage a business in that both call for courage, wisdom, patience, persistence and compromise. Anyway, best wishes to you, my friend! Wish things better every day!
