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what matters most ?
it's rainy and cloudy for several days in Shenzhen and Iam so unlucky to catch a cold and get a fever. after shower that night I was too tired to dry my hair and I fall asleep as i went to bed.when I got up in the morning Ifelt a little bit uncomfortable in my throat. but it gets worse with headache and fever these days. I have forgotten what was the last time that I caught a cold.
mom called me and enquired the present situation, whenever she called, she had a forever topic. she wants me back to my hometown. I have thought so much on this problem, but I don't know what can I do except to be a teacher if I go back. Here i have many chances and opportunities but i am alone.
what matters most for a girl? marriage ? career? and what matters most in a marriage and what matters most in a career ?
i have nothing to say about marriage because I cannot just imagine things. I know it calls for many. many spiritual things and material things too. but what will going on if you meet someone that loves you but with little money. one of my friend break up with her boyfriend because they quarreled and his boyfriend cannot bare this.did they truely love each other?
for career, I am tired of thinking this. I want to find another job, but so difficult to find a good one.
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- Reply bluephoebe
- what matters most to you? marriage or career? in fact, why should we must make a choice between these two? Can we have them both? no perfect job in this world, neither perfect match exisit. if it takes one quarrel to end a relationship, let it be. a long-term relationship is suppose to have many quarrels, just as the life is suppose to have its ups and downs. sorry i bombarded you with so many questions. what i'm trying to say here is to know exactly what you want, and go for it. life is short, but you are still young. you could afford one or two bad decisions, so listen to your heart, and make your own decisions.
- Reply Athena2011
- Sorry to learn you are weak now. Hope you will feel better soon. You looked puzzled. I do not know how to answer your question, because our situations are similar. I think all people who work outside their hometown would feel lonely occasionally, just try to change your mind when you feel lonely. Try to tell yourself it is really no big deal, I can live a good life here. As a girl, both career and marriage are important, have a regular job, we can earn money by ourselves and gain the sense of fulfillment, and a good family will provider motivation for your job. In marriage, trust is the most important. I cannot image how two people live together if they do not trust each other.
- Reply lijuanandrea
- bluephoebe: what matters most to you? marriage or career? in fact, why should we must make a choice between these two? Can we have them both? no perfect job in ththanks. I am trying to make a decision
- Reply lijuanandrea
- Athena2011: Sorry to learn you are weak now. Hope you will feel better soon. You looked puzzled. I do not know how to answer your question, because our situationsThanks a lot. girls have to be independent too
- Reply lijuanandrea
- you could afford one or two bad decisions, so listen to your heart, and make your own decisions. I will remember your words
- Reply lijuanandrea
- 异物: Many! You have to make many decisions.a decision will lead to more decisions
- Reply 异物
- lijuanandrea: a decision will lead to more decisionsYes, a decision will lead to more decisions.
- Reply lyrebird06
- When women are younger she maybe think the career is more important, but as getting mature, a happy marriage maybe be more important. But women should have independent economic consciousness.
- Reply lijuanandrea
- lyrebird06: When women are younger she maybe think the career is more important, but as getting mature, a happy marriage maybe be more important. But women shoulyes I value career, but both of them are important, it's hard to keep balance of them in reality
