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Do You Mind Your Wife Was Not A Virgin?
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Virgin is a sensitive topic in a traditional country especially in China. I am a traditional male and a Christian. There are many lovers in our campus, and today we find them everywhere we look. I don't know what their attitude is about the virgin.
Firstly, we should give a definition to virgin. In a large sense, virgin is a female who had no sexual intercourse. I once heard that,'' The God create the virgins, and the male create the women." In my opinion, this is a insult for women. About this issue, i have a little puzzle. I can not imagine that my wife is not a virgin and what i want to do. Maybe, i want to craze. Secondly, with my own eyes, how many girls are cheated by the bad boys who are not reponsible for the pathetic girls. Why do the good girls always love the bad boys? Recently, one of my classmate falls in love with a girl who comes from another college. They lived together for a month and broke up. One week later, they have their new partner again.What a surprise! Maybe i am OUT!
I undoubtedly know this is an opening society, and we need to open up,but the person who is so opening that i can not receive it. There is not only about the personal character, but also the society morality. Female, in the degenerated society should protect themselves well and learn to love themselves;male should respect the girl whom he is loved and be responsible for her, if you could not give her a shining day in the futrue, you must give her a holy and pure soul.
Finaly, I wish you all who tasting the "sweet grapes" of love a very happy day with your lover.Thank you!
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- Reply Jimmy621209
- Haiena: There is no such thing as a "second hand girlfriend", if there is, then there should also be to a "dirty second hand boyfriend too.&quoWow, presently, a girl like your hardly can be saw! Girls or boys should be responsible for each other. You said that situation as a normal female should not accept it, at the same time, male have the same reflex as you said. In this degenerate society, what can we do, and where we can go? We have no choice. As my friend Illion said,If I can`t find such kind of girl, I would prefer spend my life alone..
Thanks for your comment! God luck for you!
- Reply Haiena
- yaping:Don't try to push girls out of this topic. Girls knows everything. You are afraid girls will tell the truth. Answer her questions!
Wow~ how do u know it?
- Reply Haiena
- The truth! Why a few men insist her bride must be a virgin Men can never know if a girl is a virgin or not if the girl don't want to tell. It is easy to fake and pretend to be a virgin. Don't admit if you don't want to tell. It is your right to keep secret. Many girls have passed this faking test successfully. Men cheat and don't tell the truth so why should girls tell everything? Try to keep virginity if you can but if you have somebody who you really love deeply, everything belongs to him. We girls learn about men, sex and marriage during our private talks in our dormitories. We know everything. No need you teach us.
My older female roomate told me men who are still virgin at time of marriage are abnormal. How can a sex-healthy strong capable man control himself for so long? Either he is weak in sex or something wrong with him. Men make this big talk about chastity but if a good figure girl with big breast walk past, the men eyes will be all on that part. It happens everyday. That is called chastity. I want to pull their eyeballs out to throw them to the dogs. Men like virgins because a virgin don't know what sex is, cannot compare, also believe his husband is the best on bed. Men love those painful cries of a virgin. Virgins are more easy to tame. Less a girl knows, better for the men to control her. That is why men like virgins.
I am sure all the men will run away from this topic now because the truth is known now. Spend your life alone or become a monk if you can't live with the present lifestyle and trend.
- Reply yaping
- Haiena: Don't try to push girls out of this topic. Girls knows everything. You are afraid girls will tell the truth. Answer her questions! nothing want to say!
- Reply loly90
- It is better to keep virgin for your right and forever lover.
Be serious about your love.
- Reply Illion
- loly90: It is better to keep virgin for your right and forever lover.Be serious about your love.
- Reply Jimmy621209
- loly90: It is better to keep virgin for your right and forever lover.Thanks for your support. As a responsible man ,i must be responsible for my lover and be serious about the girl whom i loved deeply.Be serious about your love.
- Reply lonelyme
- loly90: It is better to keep virgin for your right and forever lover.I am afraid you would not get a normal good boyfriend if you are so self guarding. I do not want a girlfriend so cold and without close feelings. I feel so sorry for you because you are on the way to become an old virgin.Be serious about your love.
- Reply loly90
- lonelyme: I am afraid you would not get a normal good boyfriend if you are so self guarding. I do not want a girlfriend so cold and without close feelings. I feIt doesn't matter! I will never give my virgin to a man easily. I just give it to my husband. If i can't find the right one, i would like to be an old virgin rather than be a self-indulgence female
- Reply Jimmy621209
- loly90: It doesn't matter! I will never give my virgin to a man easily. I just give it to my husband. If i can't find the right one, i would like to be an oldM y dear friend Ionelyme, firstly, thanks for your attention, but i can not agree with you any more for Loly90.As you said that if a normal boyfriend must be demonstrated by sex, and i will ask you, when did you lost the ''first time" of you? As your means, Before you had sex, you might be a handicapped male in capacity of your sex.You do want a girlfirend cold, it is your right. If your girl friend as same as you have a strong desire of sexing, and you are not always staying with them , you could imagine what would happen. In other words, before her becomes your girlfriend, she has the same feelings as you said the girl who doesn't cold,( in a large sense, it is not cold, and we aways call it containing much but revealing little), did you want to know, what has happend in her past?
- Reply AmyKuo
- your essay arises a heated discussion,but i think that we can judge a girl as pure or open just by knowing she is a virgin or not.People has the right of having sex,which is both the biological need and physiological need for human beings.
- Reply Illion
- lonelyme: I am afraid you would not get a normal good boyfriend if you are so self guarding. I do not want a girlfriend so cold and without close feelings. I feHey, Lonelyme. I am completely confused that who give you confidence to say my Loly will be an old virgin. Who are you to question such a good girl like Loly will be an old vigin? You is nothing. Just an old man, at least a married man, right? In my opinion, you have already passed the age to talk about such kind of topic. It has been said it is a personal issue, you have right to find a lewd woman who had intimate relations with so many guys if you want. Why are you feel sorry for Loly? No matter what, there always have some excellent man who is still a virgin like me waiting for Loly types of girs to get married. We both virgin, and will have a very mystical and beautiful night. Can you imagine that?.. what a perfect thing!! there is nothing better....
Do not doubt my ability of sex or suspect me something wrong. I am very normal, everything....
Here I want to emphasize that whatever you said or I said are peosonal point, please don`t laugh at anyone....
- Reply lonelyme
- loly90: It doesn't matter! I will never give my virgin to a man easily. I just give it to my husband. If i can't find the right one, i would like to be an oldI have to agree with you. You are decent girl. I have great respect to you for preserving your virginity for your future husband. Keep trying. If you find a boyfriend who can fit your requirements, that guy must be a saint. Unfortunately, pre-marriage relationships don't work like that. Believe it or not, after courting for some time with your boyfriend, you would find him tired and slowly losing interest and I think you are smart enough to know why. There is no fire spark in your lovelife. Marriage needs time and planning so the poor boy has to continue to court with a cold plastic doll. I do not suggest you to use sex as a sweetener, but if you do not understand the biological needs of a guy, you should prepare to fail in every love relationship. Fell sorry for you.
- Reply Illion
- loly90: It doesn't matter! I will never give my virgin to a man easily. I just give it to my husband. If i can't find the right one, i would like to be an oldHaha, you have my support, Loly. I have been looking for a girl like you...and you will find that you have no chance to be an old virgin,
- Reply lonelyme
- Illion: Hey, Lonelyme. I am completely confused that who give you confidence to say my Loly will be an old virgin. Who are you to question such a good girl liSorry Illion if I have offended you. That is not my intention. I am only against your outdated and oppresive ideas which only benefit men. Don't put so much pressure onto girls. Life is hard enough for them. They have to find suitable boyfriends and yet have to face the biological and physical needs of men. When girls value chastity, we say they are old fashioned and belong to the old days, when girls respond to the needs of their loving boyfriend, you say she is shameless. What are girls supposed to do? Now I know why so many of them choose to remain single.
- Reply Jimmy621209
- Haiena: The truth! Why a few men insist her bride must be a virgin Men can never know if a girl is a virgin or not if the girl don't want to tell. It is easyWow, my friend Haiena, thanks for your pay more attention to my article and my views. Seemingly, your grumbles are very reasonable
and wonderful. You said that you know everything about sex and marriage , i am very proud of you.In fact, you are pretending a numerous fact of the reason why men like virgins,in a large sense, you have distorted the facts.
Excuse me, may i ask you some questions.To the begin with,as a female, do you want to the "first time" of you is enjoyed by your husband? Moreover, do you want to the importantet things of you give it to the man who is loved deeply by you? The last but not the lesat, how well do you know sex and marriage? I don't know what has happend in your past, and what you have undergone? As you said that ,"men who are still virgin at time of marriage are abnormal."(of cause, you can say it is said by your older female roomate , it doesn't matter.) I am very inrerested in the way that How did you find the husband of you,try another and another? If he has some troubles with sexing, in other wors, he can not be satisfied with you in sex, do you fried him and look for anther male? Acording to your views,the men like virgins just because they are more easy to tameand better for the men to control her. My dear friend, i can not say anything but You have a psychological disease. I have to ask you, you love a person just because you want to tame him and control him? Love, is sacred
and lofty, please don not insult it, OK? I can not deny that men always pay attention to a good figure girl with big breast , including me. But the big breast of a girl always in a sexy clothes, sometimes, i confused.Why?They can dress like that, Why shouldn't I have accessed it?If here someone still doubt the capacity of a man who is abnormal in sexing, she can demand answer from me. My dear friend,Haiena, do you wanna try it?
Why the men always like virgins, it is because they have holy and pure soul.(i never said the woman who was not a virgin, true holiness is impossible for them).I just want to the female whom i choosed to spend the rest of my life with,is a lover who is worthy of the powerful love of mine and never have no insurmountable river or keep secret for each other.
Finaly, i should say thanks again. Maybe i have a little complain, please forgive my unintentionally offended. Your sincerely friend ,Jimmy!
- Reply Jimmy621209
- AmyKuo: your essay arises a heated discussion,but i think that we can judge a girl as pure or open just by knowing she is a virgin or not.People has the rightMy friend, maybe you have miss my piont of my article.I alway respect everyone who is a virgin or not.That's ture. It is her right and it is none of my business. I just show my views of my future wife. Thanks for your comment.
- Reply Illion
- AmyKuo: your essay arises a heated discussion,but i think that we can judge a girl as pure or open just by knowing she is a virgin or not.People has the rightYes, you make more sences...
It`s true that the sex is biological and physical need for human beings. I am not going to deny this..
But, here, we traditional guys just want to remind some open or lewd person that there are still have a lot of normal males and females very sensitive in whether his or her future partner is a virgin or not. That`s all I want to say, nice to meet you, my beautiful foreigner
- Reply lonelyme
- Listen all of you guys and girls. Are you looking for love or virgins? Those two things are not related. A virgin may not love you more than a non-virgin. When you truly love somebody, you are supposed to give him/her everything, sometimes even your own life, before or after marriage. Marriage is only a ceremony.
What is marriage? you just met guy sometime ago, courted for some months, have a relatives banquet, sign a marriage certificate and lose your virginity on the same night. Soon the so called virgin guy may think you are not good enough and flung you out of his life. You immediately become a used condom, nobody wants you. It happens all too often. You have seen it happen all the time. Where is the guarantee of a virgin marriage? Where is the value of your virginity?
Those of you who are looking for virginity as a condition for love, go ahead and let us see how far you can go. Those of you who want to keep virginity as a qualification for marriage, go ahead, lets see how many men would value your virginity.
Instead, when a man truly loves you, he would go for your heart because there is where true love lies, not down there.
I am sorry if I have hurt those men who have strict traditional or values. That is the price you have to pay for being out of touch with the world. Equality and true love reigns.
- Reply Illion
- lonelyme: Sorry Illion if I have offended you. That is not my intention. I am only against your outdated and oppresive ideas which only benefit men. Don't put sThanks for your polite and civilized reply. I want you to know that you haven`t offended me. It is just exchance our differernt concepts. And I think that the biggest difference between human beings and animals is that human beings have moral sence and moral concept. As male, we should have responsibility. If we can not promise her a bright future, I think that we had better not to untie her underpants button. You think what I have said is some outdated and oppressive ideas, uh, maybe....
It is very complicated to explain what we should do on this issue. Just as AmyKuo said that the sex is biological and physical need for human beings. I just wrote something what I want to write, and just want to remind some open or lewd person that there are still have a lot of normal males and females very sensitive in whether his or her future partner is a virgin or not. By the way, I also want you to know that I have a girl friend, as you know, as an undergraduates students, who hasn`t ? I also have such thoughts of having sex with her, but I always control myself not to do that. She is a very good girl, tender, careful, beautiful..
Unfortunately, we have different plan about our future, here I don`t want to write more details.. So, I don`t think that I would lead her to the altar. Therefore, I am not going to have a sex with her, because I don`t want to make some negative inflence to her. I wish her a happy life...
Any way, my friend, as I have said this is a personal issue, just do it what you want to do. Just as everyone is different, our world become more and more colouful. like today, according to the report, a girl from Anhui province, for emotion frustrated, she want to commit suicide. fortunately, she was rescued by firemen... I think if the man have not done something making her unforgettable(for instance, have sex with her). she will not do something like that, right?
By the way, I`m sorry for what I have said something uncivilized words to you.
