Blogs
Fragile Campus Romance
|
I broke up with my boyfriend several days ago, I am depressed and frustrated. I am sorry for making this one be my first blog and emerging as a poor lovelorn girl, but I really need to vent.
“I don’t love you any more”, he said directly at the moment he saw me after four days’ separation. I was shocked and confused. In fact, I have no idea about what happened in the last four days, since everything seemed to be normal. Even though it seemed that he has made up his mind and it’s impossible to change the result, I wanted to know why. He said that his family had an excessive expectation on him, and I was not the right person who can help him create a glorious future, since I have no ambition. How rational he is! The reason why he abandons me is not from his heart, but from his brain. I know he is enterprising, I admit that I am not keen on substance and have no interest in society activities, but it doesn’t mean that I am a woman who seeks for nothing. Then he said he maybe not ready to develop our relationship and it is good for me to say goodbye earlier. I interrupted him, since for me, one reason is enough.
Graduation, new job, the unknown society, he is under a lot of pressure, and so do I.I totally understand him but still can’t forgive him for abandoning. The time we spent together is still full filled my mind, but he doesn't belong to me any more. Does campus love really can’t stand the test?
Post comment Comment (22 replies)
- Reply Tonyzli
- "Does campus love really can’t stand the test?" Absolutely the answer is NO. I mean Campus love is nothing. The statitics showed that only a small percent of campus love can develop into a stabel marriage. And What the students are really looking for from campus love? That's love, romance and enjoy the campus life with love, otherwise it is a big pity when leaving the campus. This guy is not worth your love because his excuse is so ugly. To be frank, you are no value for him to realize his ambition. He is so selfish.
So take it easy, forget it and face the future, at least you had the memory of love on campus, no pity. And I believe you can find out your Mr. Right. Good luck to you!
- Reply Camure
- I'm a girl with strong self-esteem and cannot allow any defection in each other's eyes.
you are right , a girl whom not keen on substance and have no interest in society activities, doesn’t mean that she's a woman who seeks for nothing.
Whatever , love is not only material, but spiritual.....
- Reply Buqiqi
- Tonyzli: "Does campus love really can’t stand the test?" Absolutely the answer is NO. I mean Campus love is nothing. The statitics showed that only3Q very much.You are so sweet just as my old friends.But it is too sudden to accept ，just like that someone forces you to swallow a big stone. I think ,It will be a long period of time before I relief thoroughly. You know, we have heard of the theory of campus love and we believed that we would be the lucky minority .Are we naive,or ridiculous?
- Reply JennyJenny
- I met my husband in college and I have been married for 20 years. The boy definitely doesn't love you. The pressure is only an excuse. The sooner you leave him the better. Having a wonderful life and let him regret for his whole life!
- Reply Jasmine-0913
- This emotion experience will be your most precious property in your world. Please don't feel blue, just clear up your mood and put your attention on the future. l also had this kind harrowing experience when l was a sophomore, but now, everything is okay.
- Reply Buqiqi
- Camure: I'm a girl with strong self-esteem and cannot allow any defection in each other's eyes.So am I.
you are right , a girl whom not keen on substance and have no
Love is not an easy thing ,especially for people who has strong sense of self-esteem. Sometimes, love means understanding, tolerance, and compromise.
- Reply Buqiqi
- JennyJenny: I met my husband in college and I have been married for 20 years. The boy definitely doesn't love you. The pressure is only an excuse. The sooner youI can't deny that I envy you so much since you are so lucky. I do feel depressed, but I don't hate him. We both are slaves of rationality. I hope one day he can make his dream come true and I have got what I really want.
- Reply Buqiqi
- Jasmine-0913: This emotion experience will be your most precious property in your world. Please don't feel blue, just clear up your mood and put your attention on tThank you for your encouragement. I do have tasted the bitter, hope I can get the property soon.
Haha~~~3Q
- Reply sunnyv
- Tonyzli: "Does campus love really can’t stand the test?" Absolutely the answer is NO. I mean Campus love is nothing. The statitics showed that onlyExcellent anaylsis and good practical advice.
- Reply sunnyv
- Don't take camplus love too seriously. Just treat it as a stage of life when you fall in love innocently. Campus love is often your first love and the first time you lost in love. Your boyfriend clearly is not a trustworthy guy and he lack confidence and wisdom. He does not have the ability to deal with pressures from parents and society. He hurt you just to make himself feel better. Furthermore, he would only treat you as a sticky person if you insist on sticking to him. Have pride in yourself. He would know you have stronger confidence than him and can take care of yourself. After some months, he may see you as a good girl and may come back to you. Good riddance if he don't come back. He would not dump you like this if he has real love for you. There would be no future even if you get married to him. Love is not something which you can fight for. You have already showed him your sadness in the failing relationship and enough is enough. This is also not disloyal but don't let yourself appear too cheap. Good luck to you dear.
- Reply Buqiqi
- sunnyv: Don't take camplus love too seriously. Just treat it as a stage of life when you fall in love innocently. Campus love is often your first love and theI read your reply again and again, just like reading a motto. You really help me a lot. 3Q~
- Reply sunnyv
- Buqiqi: I read your reply again and again, just like reading a motto. You really help me a lot. 3Q~You are self-respecting good girl. No need to cry or argue with anyone. Just be yourself. When you fall down, you have to stand up by yourself. There may be rain now, but there would be a bright rainbow after the rain. Things may be quiet for a month or two. He would be watching you from a distance. Have patience. Don't put any pressure on him. Smile or be natural when you have the chance to meet him. Study hard and transform your disappointment into energy for improving yourself. Should he ask you whether you have given him up, tell him you don't give up easily but you have self esteem too. The best of everything to you dear. Brother Sunny.
- Reply Mr.Z
- Nothing worth your depression, he has been a history actually.You should learn something from this immature love, and find your better choice in future.
- Reply Illion
- Buqiqi. cheer up, maybe it is a good chance for you to study English or some other things. No matter how, there is always have an excellent boy who is waiting for you. Giving yourself some time to forget him. Why not try to make yourself busy rise everyday, do a few real issues to cast off lovelorn time? For instance, travel, shopping, go to the gym or fall in love with other guys...Now, all you need to do is to do something you really want to do. Happiness is vital, you should take acre of yourself when nobody loves you.. Time will change everything.
- Reply Buqiqi
- Mr.Z: Nothing worth your depression, he has been a history actually.You should learn something from this immature love, and find your better choice in futYep, I can't deny that we both are immature.
Thank you for your encourage.
- Reply Buqiqi
- Illion: Buqiqi. cheer up, maybe it is a good chance for you to study English or some other things. No matter how, there is always have an excellent boy who isThank you for your encouragement. I intend to learn swimming. I think it is exciting and worth to try~
- Reply Buqiqi
- sunnyv: You are self-respecting good girl. No need to cry or argue with anyone. Just be yourself. When you fall down, you have to stand up by yourself. ThereI happened to meet him yesterday on one of the campus roads, a place where we taken a stroll shoulder by shoulder several days ago, but now passed by just like a stranger.We both pretended not to see each other almost instinctively. Maybe I should smile to him as you say. It is a challenge that worth to have a try. In fact, I appreciate his courage and resolution. (Sometimes, it really needs courage to be a bad person. ) But if he came back one day, I would despise him, since I don't like a indecisive guy, and so does he. So, I determined to let him go, and it is impossible for him to come back.
Thank you again again...
- Reply sunnyv
- You did the perfectly right thing. He thought you would go over and talk to him on the campus path. He would look down on you if you tried to connect to him. You presevered your self-esteem. You think he would be happy noq? I don't think so. He would soon realise that he could not get any gratification from and then only he would realise he made a mistake. Perhaps it is too late by then. There is nothing to regret because if he continue with you, there would not nothing but misery. Nature works in mysterious ways. Nobody can find her Mr. Right, when he comes, he comes. Let fate hold your hand and lead you to wherever it want to. Wish you a happy time ahead.
- Reply ac2smart
- It seems like, campus romance ended at the end of the grauadtion,when couples dont follow the same dream or choose different place to stay.it's pretty normal people going seperate ways when college life come to an end,amyways, don\t worry about it too muh okay?
