If you want to drain your mental energy, there is one easy way to do so: compare yourself with others. Comparing yourself with others will only give you two things: either you feel proud when you are above, or you feel jealous and intimidated when you are below. As you can see, both are negative emotions that won’t do you any good. Unfortunately, our culture is full of comparisons. People like to compare themselves with others. While some people may say that comparing is a way to motivate themselves, I think there is a better way to do that without draining our mental energy. Here it is:
Find a role model and use him as a pacer. A role model is someone whose quality and achievements you admire. It’s no secret that the way to be great is by emulating those who are great. By finding the right role model, you will have concrete example of the qualities you want to achieve. Since those qualities are now tangible, it will be much easier for you to run after them. By selecting the right role model and running after him, you will quickly improve yourself.