...It will be a hard task for me to finish the writing titled above. - -+…

The idea occupied my mind that I should write this article into an elegant essay with brilliant words and thought-provoking philosophies of life. However, I generated nothing profound in my minds. I am simple and not good at philosophy…umm…- -+ “Live in the present and try your best” is a life principle I just learned shortly before. For me the principle likes a cake. I just got it in my hand not long ago and bit a bit, thinking it delicious, but I have not had enough time to digest it. That’s why I can not write a profound essay out. However, I am glad to share with you my experiences of getting the “cake”.

When I saw the title, a word seemingly irrelevant to the title occurred to me – Friends, for the title reminds me of my attitude towards friends, from worrying about departing to saying goodbye happily.

Friends weigh a lot in my life and I can not help thinking about the departing with them. When I was younger, I regarded saying goodbye is such a sad thing which I could not bear. This kind of concept affected my way getting along with friends. Most time I was the first one to conquer in the “cold war” between us and I treated friends even in a blindly tolerant way. To be honest, the more intimate we were the more flinched before friends I was for I was afraid of losing them. The “over-considerations” to the sad future became obstacles to my “current” performance.

Gradually, I found my sacrifice is unworthy coz friends doesn't treat me in the corresponding way. I treated friends as my only treasure, but I was not the only one of my friends. This kind of mental unbalance once made me frustrated. Of course I have realized that my frustration at that time is rather childish, and to some extent I was in the condition of autism, worrying about personal gains and losses in an imaginary world where friends are everything.

That is unrealistic. Friendship is neither a promise nor bondage. Before I realized it, the way I getting along friends resembled a heavy burden in my life journey. The anxiety about the unknown consequences prevented me from free life at present. But When I became not as “loyal” to the once “center” thing in my life as before, I became free and began to pay much attention to the present life of my own, both relevant or irrelevant to friends.

I began to refuse the requests from friends if I did not want to do it. I began to ask friends to fulfill my wants. I was no longer smiling but responding to them actively while they were making fun of me even if kindly…It seems that I am more independent. It seems that I am not as tolerant to friends as before. It seems that we are more like playmates instead of friends…but who can tell the differences between the two?

Before graduation, there is plenty of time for you to design a scene of departing with your friends. I also designed one for me with Ben, one of my friends. However, when the day finally came, all of my designs became unrealistic. No tears actually. We were talking, joking even quarreling with each other as usual on the way to the train station until the last minute when the train was starting.

“Good bye.” We said to him, waving our hands, smiling.

Departing is not that sad. On the contrary, when I come to any place we once came to together in the campus, I will recall the happy scenes with him, not the sacrifice or unwillingness of any one, but happy together.

What if my best friend leaves me? I was once haunted by this question. However, now I can answer it easily: We will meet in another place in the future. What if we never meet each other in the future? I was once can not help shirk this question. However, now I can answer this question calmly: no matter what we shall be in the future, it is enough that we have met each other.

Life is such a short journey that we can not spare time to feel sad. Live in the present and make a good use of it. This principle can apply to any corner of life, not only to friends.