A lot of members of this space are undergraduates. I t is quite different between a university and society. This is a nature conclusion of my 15 years of experience. I don’t want to enumerate those backstabbing snobs you will meet after your graduation. I just advise you to field with your relatives, especially after you are in your relationship.

These days, my mood is ruined by my brother-in-law. Why will I depict the story in English? For my brother-in-law is not good at English, so does his friends. He is a cook, the only brother of my wife. He was born to schoolteacher parents but unfortunately, he was not good at study when In schools. Finally, He was forced to learn things about cuisine to support himself. He can’t focus his attention on his career too. He also like raising dogs and pigeons in his spare time. When his colleagues are managing to master high-level skills in cuisine, he lags behind. At the beginning, he could land a job on a high-end restaurant. But now, he can only obtain a contract of a restaurant at skirts. After my father-in-law passed away for brain ailment, he didn’t feel sorrow too much, on the contrary, he felt he was emancipated from strict surveillance. This is unbelievable for us. He quit his job and bought a bungalow using meager cash left by his father.  Then he filled the house with pigeons and wolf dogs. He couldn’t earn a penny through his new business at all. Finally, he could not afford to the feeds of his dogs. He began to beg us to lend him money to continue his sacred career. I had no other choice but lending him a big bunch of money for the good of my wife. Five years have past, he has enen mentioned  of this thing. On the contrary, he manages to think out a variety of excuses to borrow more money.

Finally, we decide to figure out a method to stymie his everlasting requirements. Saying No tactically is the most effective way. Last month, he called us to lend 20000 Yuan for the preparation of his wife’s brother’s marriage. We decided to refuse him by saying having no money. This is the first time we tell a lie to a relative.  We have no choice.

The case of my brother-in-law is an exception. In fact, a lot of people in need will borrow money from you after you step into society. Before you take out your money, you must think twice. There is a perplexing phenomenon in this society, i.e., people like borrowing money but are reluctant to pay it back. When you remind him of his delaying, the relation between you and your friends would be went under. In fact, a lot of my classmates didn’t contact me any more  for this reason. So, if you cherish your friendship, don’t be hurry to fork out money.

   Among private persons, this phenomenon is perpetual, so as among countries like Greece and his neighbors.