One of my colleague invited me to her wedding. She told me that this man she was going to marry was her first love, and they had been together for six months.

    I wondered if six months were enough for her to know a man----at least not enough for me. I just responded,"So quickly."

    "Because I really love him," she said, an expression full of happiness hanging on her face.

    Then I said nothing. After all, if a man could give her such a happy smile, why should I doubt their love?

    Soon the day of wedding came. There was a small incident that day which was worth mentioning:

    When the bride and groom were walking together, the bride seemed not accustomed to high heels and she slipped down to the lawn. to my surprise, the groom, instead of helping her up, just stood there and watched her struggle to stand up by herself.

    "Maybe he just didn't make a fuss about trifles," I told myself. But was a fall down of his bride just a trifle in his eyes? Or, was it just me who was too serious?

    All my doubts ended when one year later, humor had it that the man had a lover, just after my colleague gave birth to a child. To make it worse, my colleague had bought an apartment with her own money just before they got married. But, on the ownership certificate, she wrote both her and the man's name. And now he demanded his share of money of the house. Though they don't live together now, divorce is delayed due to this tricky problem...

    To be honest, I rarely thought anything after I heard all these things. In my head, there was only one sentence resounding:

    "Because I really love him."

    I imagined her excitement when entering love. She was young and beautiful then, full of simple expectations of a girl towards her first love and her future husband. But she demanded so little from him that she lost her due judgement of a man, that she didn't realize she actually deserved much more, and that she ignored her own precious value of existence.

    Someone said it was fate, I didn't agree. All these things could be avoided----if we fill ourselves with a maturer heart, a soberer brain, and a higher esteem towards ourselves before we begin our love.