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Chinese men unlucky or kids lucky? (中国男人的不幸还是中国孩子的幸福?)
Chinese women have their deep love to their family, including their husband and their baby. But further explore the Chinese women’s love between the two persons they love most both in this world, what a answer on earth? Husband or baby? Who is the first "number one" in a woman's inner heart on earth?
There is a famous research to Chinese women who have married and have given birth too. Now you see the simple question asked to the Chinese women: Who is the most love person in your heart? Who is the person you can’t leave in this world? The answers which the Chinese women gave nearly amazing same: My baby! Another action research just proved the same results of Chinese women’s choices in heart. Among husband and baby, most of Chinese women choosed to sit together with baby instead of husband in public.
As the research to foreign women, the result is opposite entirely. Most of them said husband is their most first love instead of their kid, even an old grandma can say out their most love in this world is her husband with great proud crossed husband’s arm in public:My most love is my husband in this world!
Some other researches to Chinese women’s actions showed most Chinese women do care their kids more than their husbands, even some wives sleep together with baby for many years ignoring the unluchy husband. Love is exclusive, family’s love also has a balance. I’m a wife instead of a husband, don’t know my wife ignore me wholly whether at daytime or nighttime, can the couple love reduce someway? All love gave kids really is real happiness and benefit for a family whether to husband or kid?
Couple’s love is normal, tied a whole family firmly. To kids, we should let them learn what‘s love and how to love future. Parent’s love is kid’s teacher someway. Why our couple’s love expression can’t show before kids? If a boy saw nothing from his dad, how to love his girl future? If a girl saw her mom care less to his father, how to care her husband more future? As a Chinese couple, maybe we are not good at speaking out sometimes, but we should teach our kids how to do a healthy person, how to love others, how to love family, how to love your another half. Husband is the person who we live together with our whole lifetime instead of kids, husband should be the one who can live together with a woman till life ending in this world, no any other person can be replaced in a woman’s life, so husband’s position should be the number one, can’t be replaced by others,even kids.
But my question is, how many Chinese women realized the family love truth in their mind? how many Chinese women can do it well? including myself. My love to daughter more than my husband? maybe. Chinese husband’s unlucky or Chinese kid’s lucky?
Post comment Comment (37 replies)
- Reply geologistchen
- can't wait to share it.it's a question that most of chinese people have ignored which may be ralated to the truth that every family just own one or two children.
- Reply Poon
- *_* it really a deep thinking ,maby it really is our men's unlucky >_<! but ,maby in men's inner heart, we ,as well as women love children more than their wife, haha~,yeah ~.however ,it just my guess ,i have never asked my father who he loves more between my mum and me ~_~||| perhaps ,that 's our chinese way !
- Reply qinqinjennifer
- I read a article before, just choose the one who can't live without, at last, the one choose their husband.
Husband is who will accompany our femal from a young girl to an old lady, and he deserve it.
But for child, we could care about them, but they will have their own future in future.
- Reply WLC
- U have a spelling mistake in the 4th paragraph，in which make me confused。”unluchy“ But I realized it shuoud be unlucky after I read the last sentence in the last paragraph。
- Reply pheidippides
- In my opinion, the key is love between the couples.
You know the marriage are freedom ,they ingore your career ,your income ,your groundback.If they love each other,they probabely come together finally.
But in china ,you can inmagine the result ,the love between the foreign's cuoples is much deeper than chinese.
- Reply snowflying
- geologistchen: can't wait to share it.it's a question that most of chinese people have ignored which may be ralated to the truth that every family just own one or twnice to meet you here,my friend. so thankful for your sharing. in fact, i know myself's poor english writing. it's surely a common ignored question,for our chinese women love baby too, nearly all emergy spend on baby,all minds focus on baby too,myself too,heihei...
- Reply snowflying
- judyspace: In China, most of the mom dote on their kids,due to much family just have a kid.glad to see you in my space ,my friend. you are right, most of chinese family only have one baby, at most two babies. so baby becomes the center of a family,hehe....
- Reply snowflying
- Poon: *_* it really a deep thinking ,maby it really is our men's unlucky >_<! but ,maby in men's inner heart, we ,as well as women love children moroh? Poon, we meet again. your continuing appearing really let me believe we can be able to become good friends here, i'm honest loyal sincere to my friends actually, and believe friendship online. wish we exchange more here,guy.
as for this topic, surely some early fo yourself's family, but i believe you parents must love you as a treasure. each family like so indeed, our family too. just this common existing make chinese couple's love have their own way,heiheihei....
- Reply snowflying
- qinqinjennifer: I read a article before, just choose the one who can't live without, at last, the one choose their husband.glad to see you here,my friend. to be frank, from the theory angle, i totally agrww with you, a family's center should be the couples instead of kids, but in our chinese family, most of families focus the biggest love on the baby,whether mum or dad actually, that a fact, but really bebefit baby?? maybe worth of thinking,hehe...
Husband is who will accompany our femal
- Reply snowflying
- WLC: U have a spelling mistake in the 4th paragraph，in which make me confused。”unluchy“ But I realized it shuoud be unlucky after I read the last sentenice to meet you here,my friend. heheee, so thankful for your careful reading , really like so, i often have spell mistakes. in fact, i deeply know not only spell mistakes , but also many grammar mistakes too. how i wish some friends can point out to help me! so thankful for you,my friend. wish more teaching hearafter, because my poor english writing, though my writing more here, but mistakes still so more actually,heiheihei...
- Reply snowflying
- pheidippides: In my opinion, the key is love between the couples.glad to see you again in my space, my friend.your lovely baby avatar always brings me smiling, i very like baby,heheee...
You know the marriage are freedom ,they ingore your career ,your income ,your groundback.If they l
you are right, chinese couple's love maybe really need some improvement, at least most of chinese couples are not good at speak out in daily life directly, maybe called chinese feature,heihei.....
- Reply Poon
- snowflying: oh? Poon, we meet again. your continuing appearing really let me believe we can be able to become good friends here, i'm honest loyal sincere to my fr:)i know ,the concept of children is far from me now ,but i can 't help to make a comment to this deep article ,haha~ ^o^it is my honour to make your acquaintance here !a wisdom friend ,a hr yeah :-)
- Reply snowflying
- Poon: :)i know ,the concept of children is far from me now ,but i can 't help to make a comment to this deep article ,haha~ ^o^it is my honour to make youso warm to hear your pretty words, Poon. surely flattered me. actually i deeply know what a common woman i am, what a poor english i'm too! just you guys encourage me, give me some power and small cofidence. actually we each person always has their advantage,let us learn more from sharing with more friends here. thanks more, Poon.
- Reply Poon
- snowflying: so warm to hear your pretty words, Poon. surely flattered me. actually i deeply know what a common woman i am, what a poor english i'm too! just you g^_^haha~，as kongzi said :there must the one can be my teacher in three people @_@
- Reply bluephoebe
- Do we need to make a choice between the husband and the child? Why can't we love them equally? Why not choose to sit between them in public? For me, it's hard to tell, which one is most important in the world, my husband or my son? I could only give one answer: both!
- Reply TDD
- my mum love me more than she love my father..and it is the same with my father.haha..Your parents love you more than anybody in the world as you love your children,so when coming to this question,just forget your husband and your child,think about your mum and your father,everybody has a irreplaced parents behind them!
- Reply snowflying
- Poon: ^_^haha~，as kongzi said :there must the one can be my teacher in three people @_@right
- Reply geologistchen
- tell the truth your english writing is excellent ,you are the mother of a baby? er, no wonder so deep do you realise the problem.every baby live in china is a lucky one.
