感恩节：母亲总是最后一个被感谢的人

when we put a small piece of alum into muddy water, we can see the alum can soon make the water clear. if each of us has an attitude of being grateful, we'll be able to get rid of impulse, upset, dissatisfaction and misfortune. being grateful can bring us a better and more beautiful life.

how can gratitude help us in our everyday lives as moms? think about the difference you can make in your family' s life just by noticing and being thankful for all the great things they do. when you express gratitude, you show your love and appreciation. everyone needs to feel these things every day.

sometimes as moms we feel that no one appreciates us--and it is true that moms are usually last on the list to be thanked. one way you can teach gratitude is by example. even on the days when it seems your children or husband are doing everything wrong, find a reason to thank them. take the time and energy to look for the good.

think about the things that your family does that deserve a "thank you." you might say to your husband, "thank you for working so hard for our family," or, to your child, "i really appreciate your sense of humor--it feels good to laugh." expressing your gratitude helps family members to understand how it feels to be appreciated. and if they still don' t catch on, let them know when you feel unappreciated. you can also tell them how great it makes you feel when they do express gratitude.

sometimes we get so busy and caught up in daily life that we forget to be grateful. we expect everyone to do their share without being asked. the only time anyone hears anything is when a chore has not been completed. this attitude, over the long haul, will develop very resentful and uncooperative family members.

when life is good, gratitude is easy. it becomes more challenging to be grateful when we are experiencing hard times. financial hardship, long-term illness, the death of a loved one and marital strife can all be trying and difficult. it is hard to find anything to be grateful for. but while pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. we have a choice in how we view our circumstances. we can be thankful for the lessons we learn and the opportunities for personal growth and transformation. look at all the people in this world who share the gifts they received during especially difficult times of their life.

look at everyone with grateful eyes. listen to your heart and the heart of your loved ones. speak words of affirmation every day of your life. be grateful for your life with all its lessons and blessings. the more grateful thoughts and feelings you experience and express the more instrumental you will be in healing the world. and your outlook on life will improve in the process.

 

把一小块明矾放入混沌的水中，我们发现，水很快就澄清了。如果人人都有一颗感恩的心，就能沉淀许多的浮躁和不安，消融许多的不满和不幸。感恩能让我们的生活变得更加美好。

作为母亲，感恩在日常生活中又能如何帮助我们呢？通过注意和感谢家人所做的一切伟大的事情，想想你能为家庭生活带来什么变化。当你表示感恩的时候，就展现出了你的爱心和感激。每个人每天都需要这些感受。

作为母亲，有时候会感到没有人感激我们——事实上也是如此，母亲总是最后一个被感谢的人。你传授感恩的一个方法就是自己树立榜样。即便有一天你的孩子和丈夫把所有的事情都搞错了，你也要找个理由感谢他们，花些时间和精力，寻找好的地方。

想想你的家人所做的事情，哪些值得你说一句“谢谢”。你可以对丈夫说一句：“谢谢你为我们的家努力工作，”或者对孩子说：“我非常欣赏你的幽默感——笑笑真好。”表达你的感激会帮助你的家人理解收到感激的心情。如果他们还是无法领悟，那就在你需要感激的时候告诉他们。你也可以告诉他们，当他们向你表达感激时你的感受。

有时，我们过于繁忙，忙于芜杂的生活琐事，连感激都忘记了。我们期望每个人都能够自觉地尽职尽责，在这个时间每个人所能听到的就是做完活。这种态度，日积月累，在家人之间就会发展为抱怨和不和。