母爱的真谛：母亲永远不会后悔！

time is running out1 for my friend. while we are sitting at lunch she casually mentions she and her husband are thinking of starting a family. "we're taking a survey,"she says, half-joking. "do you think i should have a baby?"

"it will change your life," i say, carefully keeping my tone neutral2. "i know,"she says, "no more sleeping in on weekends, no more spontaneous3 holidays..."

but that's not what i mean at all. i look at my friend, trying to decide what to tell her. i want her to know what she will never learn in childbirth classes. i want to tell her that the physical wounds of child bearing will heal, but becoming a mother will leave her with an emotional4 wound so raw5 that she will be vulnerable6 forever.

i consider warning her that she will never again read a newspaper without thinking: "what if that had been my child?" that every plane crash, every house fire will haunt her. that when she sees pictures of starving children, she will wonder if anything could be worse than watching your child die. i look at her carefully manicured7 nails and stylish suit and think that no matter how sophisticated8 she is, becoming a mother will reduce her to the primitive9 level of a bear protecting her cub10.

i feel i should warn her that no matter how many years she has invested in her career, she will be professionally derailed11 by motherhood. she might arrange for child care, but one day she will be going into an important business meeting, and she will think her baby's sweet smell. she will have to use every ounce of discipline12 to keep from running home, just to make sure her child is all right.

i want my friend to know that every decision will no longer be routine. that a five-year-old boy's desire to go to the men's room rather than the women's at a restaurant will become a major dilemma. the issues of independence and gender identity will be weighed against the prospect that a child molester13 may be lurking14 in the lavatory15. however decisive she may be at the office, she will second-guess16 herself constantly17 as a mother.

looking at my attractive friend, i want to assure her that eventually18 she will shed the added weight19 of pregnancy20, but she will never feel the same about herself. that her own life, now so important, will be of less value to her once she has a child. she would give it up in a moment to save her offspring21, but will also begin to hope for more years—not to accomplish her own dreams—but to watch her children accomplish theirs.

i want to describe to my friend the exhilaration22 of seeing your child learn to hit a ball. i want to capture23 for her the belly laugh24 of a baby who is touching the soft fur of a dog for the first time. i want her to taste the joy that is so real it hurts.

my friend's look makes me realize that tears have formed in my eyes. "you'll never regret it," i say finally. then, squeezing25 my friend's hand, i offer a prayer for her and me and all of the mere mortal women who stumble26 their way into this holiest of callings.

 

时光任苒，朋友已经老大不小了。我们坐在一起吃饭的时候，她漫不经心地提到她和她的丈夫正考虑要小孩。“我们正在做一项调查，”她半开玩笑地说。“你觉得我应该要个小孩吗？”

“他将改变你的生活。”我小心翼翼地说道，尽量使语气保持客观。“这我知道。”她答道，“周末睡不成懒觉，再也不能随心所欲休假了……”