双语：不再和别人比较的8个好心态

awareness. most often we do these social comparisons without realizing we’re doing it. it’s a natural act, i suppose, and as a result it’s something that is done without consciousness. so the solution is to become conscious — bring these thoughts to the forefront of your consciousness by being on the lookout for them. if you focus on these thoughts for a few days, it gets much easier with practice, and soon it’ll be hard not to notice.
注意它。我们经常没有意识到这种比较的发生，我认为这是自然行为，这是由于有些行为是无意识的。所以解决办法是注意它，有意识的留意这种思想出现时的意识变化。如果坚持一段时间注意这种意识的变化，那么想不注意都不行了，也就容易实践了。

stop yourself. once you realize you’re doing these comparisons, give yourself a pause. don’t berate yourself or feel bad — just acknowledge the thought, and gently change focus.
管住自己：当你意识到自己在进行这种比较时，请自己停下来。不要责备自己或感觉不好，只要意识到自己的想法，并温和的转移注意力就可以了。

stop yourself. once you realize you’re doing these comparisons, give yourself a pause. don’t berate yourself or feel bad — just acknowledge the thought, and gently change focus.
管住自己：当你意识到自己在进行这种比较时，请自己停下来。不要责备自己或感觉不好，只要意识到自己的想法，并温和的转移注意力就可以了。

count your blessings. a better focus is on what you do have, on what you are already blessed with. count what you have, not what you don’t. think about how lucky you are to have what you have, to have the people in your life who care about you, to be alive at all.
珍惜你所拥有的。一个更好的办法是看看自己所拥有的，而不是总去想那些自己没有的。想想你是多么幸运的拥有了这一切，出现在你生命中珍惜你的和值得你珍惜的人。

focus on your strengths. instead of looking at your weaknesses, ask yourself what your strengths are. celebrate them! be proud of them. don’t brag, but feel good about them and work on using them to your best advantage.
重视自己的优点。多注意自己的优点，而不是一直看到弱点。庆幸你所拥有的优点，为此而自豪！不要骄傲，但可以运用这些优点在工作和生活中做得更加出色。

be ok with imperfection. no one is perfect — intellectually, we all know that, but emotionally we seem to feel bad when we don’t reach perfection. you aren’t perfect and you never will be. i certainly am not, and i’ve learned to be ok with that. sure, keep trying to improve, but don’t think you’ll ever be the “perfect person”. if you look at it in a different way, that imperfection is what makes you who you are, you already are perfect.
释怀那些不完美。事实上，我们都知道没有人是完美的，但是情感上当没有达到完美时我们会感觉不好。你不完美，而且永远也不会完美，我当然也是，但我学会了释怀那些不完美。当然，继续努力，但不要总想着你永远不会完美这件事。如果你能从另一个角度看待它，其实是这些缺点让你成为今天的你，这本身就是完美的。

be ok with imperfection. no one is perfect — intellectually, we all know that, but emotionally we seem to feel bad when we don’t reach perfection. you aren’t perfect and you never will be. i certainly am not, and i’ve learned to be ok with that. sure, keep trying to improve, but don’t think you’ll ever be the “perfect person”. if you look at it in a different way, that imperfection is what makes you who you are, you already are perfect.
释怀那些不完美。事实上，我们都知道没有人是完美的，但是情感上当没有达到完美时我们会感觉不好。你不完美，而且永远也不会完美，我当然也是，但我学会了释怀那些不完美。当然，继续努力，但不要总想着你永远不会完美这件事。如果你能从另一个角度看待它，其实是这些缺点让你成为今天的你，这本身就是完美的。

don’t knock others down. sometimes we try to criticize others just to make ourselves look or feel better. taking someone else down for your benefit is destructive. it forms an enemy when you could be forming a friend. in the end, that hurts you as well. instead, try to support others in their success — that will lead to more success on your part.
不要打击别人。有时我们会通过批评别人的方式来使自己感觉更好，这种做法是极具破坏性的，这将使你得罪一个人而非得到一个朋友，最后，只是伤害了自己。相反，我们应该在别人取得成绩时支持他，这也会使你得到更大的满足。