如何成为最有魅力的人，请别忽视来自自身的吸引力

有没有吸引力并不取决于你赚多少钱，也不取决于你的老爸是谁。而且，这完全不取决于你是否长得像汤姆·克鲁斯或者他的妻子凯蒂·赫尔姆斯。这仅仅取决于一些简单的细节，像汤姆·克鲁斯一样的人也不一定能办到。而来自任何种族，任何国家，任何背景的人，都能成为世界上最有吸引力的人。

　　it's not about howmuch money you make, and it's not about who your daddy is. and no, it'sdefinitely not about whether you look like tom cruise or his wife katieholmes ... what it is about is these simple things, things that maybeeven a person like tom cruise does not have.

　　and note, we are notnecessarily talking about sexual (male attract female) things here.we're talking about being attractive in general, whether it's on a jobinterview or just gaining the respect of your colleagues . . .

　　ask lots of questions

　　in other words, behumble. if you come across as a know-it-all (even if you really do knowit all!)， it really pushes people away. rather, asking lots and lots ofquestions (even dumb ones) makes people feel like you care, you can betrusted, and you are... humble.

　　great posture

　　have you ever seen apotentially very attractive person, but they have terrible posture?it's all ruined, isn't it? or perhaps you have seen someone who perhapscould be quite ugly but they have great posture and so suddenly theyare really attractive? it's true. your posture says a lot about you -it says whether you have confidence, or simply if you really care.talking physically, it is one of the most important physicalcharacteristics you need!

　　walk like you mean it

　　walk with anattitude. walk like you know where you're going, and do so with goodposture. walk like you'll run over anyone who even attempts to hassleyou. if you walk like this, you'll be spotted from a mile away.

　　stay busy

　　do you really knowthe power of this? we're told to stay busy to ward off depression andfeelings of anxiety. but did you know you should also stay busy to bereally attractive? it's true. always have something to do. have youever seen someone just sitting around, doing nothing? how unattractive.always be busy with something, even if for some reason you have to makesomething up.

　　show your pearly whites (or just smile)

　　smile more, nomatter how ugly your teeth are. i'm not kidding about this one. it'snot all about the teeth. if you are smiling genuinely, you can draweveryone for 100 meters around to you.

　　keep your lips smooth

　　moisturize yourlips. it's hard to even look someone in the face if their lips arecracked and dry. and it's hard to believe that they really care aboutanything. that's just the way we humans think. so for cryin' out loudcarry around a tube of chap stick around with you ... they're only likea buck a pop, and they'll last you a while even if you put it on asregularly as i am eluding to! and no, women, it's not necessarily aboutthe lipstick (although, yes, there is a time and place for it) ... it'smore about the simple, natural beauty of supple lips. caution! don'tput so much on that it's just scary, however. but i didn't need to tellyou that, right?

　　wear what fits

　　wear clothing thatfits you. too tight, people are distracted. too loose, you just looksloppy. for women, wearing tight pants or shirts is not attractive. ifyou've got it, don't flaunt it - it ruins it for your man (there are afew things best left to the imagination, honey). loose, slightly clingyor drapey things are best, or else things that just fit you and yourshape well but not tight. men, us women with taste and style reallydon't know why some guys think their pants sagging down is somehowattractive. it's not! and neither is huge, wide leg pants. both justtell us you don't really care. you're following the crowd. wear thingsthat fit you nicely, please . . . and for goodness sake, both sexes,stay away from logos and printed shirts! most people you may ask do notfind this attractive. stop being some company's billboard, and show us you.

　　be interested in other man

　　be interested inthe other person. again, ask them questions. don't talk about yourself... remove attention from yourself. if you are genuinely interested inthe person, it will come across. and if you want to talk aboutyourself, you'll find that putting the other person first actuallyopens him up to return the favor and ask you questions. see how funthis is?

　　put away inhibitions

　　ok, there is a timeand a place to play shy. but, for the most part, putting awayinhibitions makes people feel comfortable around you. even if you goahead and do something and totally mess it up, it really makes everyonecomfortable around you and want to be around you. people are fragile,especially those who don't put into practice what i'm saying in thisarticle. and so that means they need someone like you to lean on.

　　so, yes it ispossible to be the most attractive person in the world. if you've noticed the ring throughout the article, it has a lot to do with just being confident in who you are. nobody needs to look like tom cruise orwill smith or their wives, or anyone else for that matter. everyperson, of every race, of every nationality, of every background, canbe the most attractive person in the world.